As the festive season is drawing to a close, many people focus on new year resolutions. 

The problem with these is they do not last! Like daily affirmations, they fade into the background when the pace of life picks up and become a distant picture postcard list of aspirations rarely achieved. Your mind may believe them, but if your heart does not feel it, they are done with. So can you actually make them stick? And how to do so without resorting to blue tack?

Annual resolutions tend to come from a place of not being good enough – the very need for making them stems from a sense of wanting to make some improvements in how we show up to the world. We think we need to amend something about us: be it the physical appearance or an inner state, correcting the ‘imperfections’. This can create a sense of inner tension: we do not really want to get rid of the version of ourselves that we have become (since it gives us a semblance of identity), whilst at the same time feeling we need to improve something about us (perhaps since everyone is doing it or it is expecting of us). Yet at each moment of such self-examination we create a version of ourselves based on all of the energetic ripples such a dilemma creates thus subconsciously limiting the version of who we can become. It is those perceived limitations coming from the emotions we experience as a result of our attempts at formulating the new year resolutions that we need to stay mindful of.

Whatever our perception of ourselves is, the external reality will match it in terms of feedback we get re our appearance, behaviour, or even mindset and emotions we exude. This is pure physics: what we resonate, we become and attract. So to create the best version of ourselves, the one reflecting the big sum of all the resolutions we’d like to make stick, self-corrections and intentions, we just need to be it! Feel it, smell it, think it, and vibrate it! And we can only do it when we truly believe they are achievable in an instant as time is just a concept so both our future and our past manifest or collapse in(to) the present.

‘So how do you do it?’ – I hear you ask. ‘How do I make these shifts without making the actual resolutions?’

• Firstly, raise your vibration: dance, meditate, run, lift weights, laugh spending time with your loved ones – whatever makes you happy to be alive. Feel that with your whole being, embrace it with your heart.

• Secondly, set a powerful intention that aligns with the frequency of love, or higher. Once you get it clearly formulated, ideally in writing and placed somewhere where you can see it daily, move on.

• Thirdly, stay focused on the highest version of yourself – and continually zone in on it when you find your focus fading (e.g. when you are having a bad day). Repeat the focusing drill whenever you lose it.

• Fourthly, surround yourself with people and energy that elevates you. Some people may not be best to be around if they do not share your intention or vision, just like some environs are not.

• And lastly, remember to stay strong trusting that you are already it: the best version of self. When you remind yourself of this every time you slip, the very act of repetition of the intention and having faith in the outcome will take you there – you will see it in the mirror when washing your teeth first thing!

You are already perfect the way you are! Perhaps just remembering it every time you take a breath is enough for your best self to just effortlessly emerge from your chrysalis like a butterfly…